Making breasts happy instead of scary (part 2, new = danger!)

National Mall, Washington D.C.  Summer 2015.   This lovely gentleman walked by a couple times before timidly and politely asking if we could chat.  He was curious and genuine with his interest and support.  I asked to take a picture with him to record the friendly exchange.
National Mall, Washington D.C.
Summer 2015.
This lovely gentleman walked by a couple times before timidly and politely asking if we could chat. He was curious and genuine with his interest and support. I asked to take a picture with him to record the friendly exchange.

Unfortunately, Americans are collectively pre-adolescent in our understanding of sexuality.  We are the equivalent of 12-year-olds giggling after school over our father’s pornography magazines. So it is difficult for many people to understand that breasts can be both sexually attractive and non-sexual altogether, according to the will of the woman they belong to.

The idea is downright revolutionary!  Even in 2015, the idea that a woman gets to decide when she is sexual or not is a seismic shift in the power dynamic to which both men and women subscribe.

My blog is about the practicalities of normalizing female bare-chestedness.  This particular article is simply to say if you want Americans to ever be comfortable with the sight of female breasts, it will take time and patience.  Being scary while being bare-chested will only cement that fear in the minds of your observers.  When people feel anxious, they use their primitive mid-brains instead of their cognitive fore-brains.  Associations made in the mid-brain live forever.

Mid-brain response will be subtle but detectable.  Whites of the eyes, lips drawn back, head drawn back, not knowing where to look (which is another way of suddenly scanning for other dangers in the area).  If a mid-brained person sees you behave in a sexually provocative way, your bare breasts will be associated with sex.  If you shout and scream, they will be associated with anger and fear.

But if you behave in a way they find to be otherwise normal, they will eventually be associated with normality.

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2 thoughts on “Making breasts happy instead of scary (part 2, new = danger!)

  1. As a long time supporter of Topfreedom and Naturism, I usually try to explain the duality of breasts by comparing them to ears. Ears too can have a secondary (sensual) erogenous reaction but a primary (biological) purpose. People can have attractive ears yet no one can be harmed by the sight of one.

    Keep up the good work.

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